PCS Move - You're Not Starting Over, You're Starting Fresh

Moving because of a Permanent Change of Station (PCS) can seem overwhelming, but try to see it differently. Instead of thinking of it as starting over, think of it as a chance to begin anew. Here are some important things to remember:

Embrace New Opportunities

Check out new places and cultures.
- Big cities, small towns, middle of no where - There is always something or someplace you can explore and learn something new from.
- Finding the local parks, local churches are great ways to get to know the community.
Meet new people and make new friends.
- If you have kids - see if you can volunteer at their school.
- If you find a church that you like, get involved in their social groups
- Find a run, bike, or walking club. These are really great for meeting people you have something in common with.
Find new hobbies and activities in your new area.
- Check out the local library, recreational parks, even your local city commerce. They can alway direct you on things to do in the community.

Organize and Plan

Make a checklist for your move to keep things on track.
- Start this process around three months prior to your move.
  - Consider all the essential documents and paperwork you might need to gather, as this can take some time.
  - Approximately a month before moving, begin removing items like curtains, pictures, and backyard belongings.
    - If you have children, involve them in the process. This will help them understand what is happening and get them excited about the upcoming move and relocation.
Go through your stuff and declutter.
- Start cleaning out, purging, and decluttering. Give away to your neighbors, your friends, or donate to local non profit organizations.Plan your packing to make the move easier.

Focus on the Positive

Think about the experiences and memories from where you used to live.
Whenever I relocated, I often experienced a touch of sadness, even during brief duty assignments. I made an effort to make the most of my time in each place. I would focus on a special activity I did or a memorable experience I had. Believe me, you'll reflect on these memories and either laugh or feel sad again, but you will definitely look back on them.
Get excited about the new adventures ahead.
I must confess, there were moments when my husband returned with his orders, and I thought, "What, Where?!!!" However, I consistently moved forward, knowing I was supporting my husband no matter the circumstances. I would begin researching our next destination and start envisioning how this would become a new adventure in our "memory book".
Keep a positive attitude to make the transition smoother.
This is vital, particularly for your spouse. They have to be on duty, answer the call, and lead the team—whatever you want to call it—they need your support more than anyone else. Maintaining a positive attitude greatly helps in making the transition smoother.

Establish a Routine

Transform your new house into a home. My motto was, "Wherever the Navy sends us, that's home." As soon as the moving truck arrived, I would begin unpacking boxes as if it were Christmas. I would put everything in its place, hang the curtains, organize the dishes, and set up the kids' rooms. It didn't take long to turn our place into our new happy home.